They are not eating the wood, just using the fibres to make nests. If it is coated you should not have any issues as the wasps like the weathered stuff.
I have seen the plinth seals that wrap around the bottom edge. They are friction fit and could be replaced. They are probably a better solution as you don't have to rout a groove.
With the over fascia vents the airflow comes up from underneath. The plastic eaves membrane support trays are better than bitumen but either should be fine.
There is sometimes quite a lead time on wind posts. How many have been specified? Somewhere along the line you will need structural drawings and calcs that comply with part A. You can normally bolt the windposts to the slab or concrete them in. They add a surprising amount of strength and stiffness to a wall.
The alternative could be some brick reinforcing - like train track in the mortar beds - but I don't know if it will work for your design.
It is not bad, just very unpleasant to breathe in, stings in cuts and eyes, dusty. Much more volume than cement. It does make the mortar nice and creamy and workable though. I wouldn't cut the bag in half.
I would say the biggest risk to colour variation is what sand and cement you use so having all the sand in one load is good. Make sure the cement is the same make and supplier throughout. I have used some that was very inconsistent in colour.
Shovelling lime into a gauging bucket before chucking it into the mixer is a horrible job, but they should have paid more attention at school.
We have got the bricklayer to include a slate course in the past where we needed to work the coursing in with a steel on one wall. The could have gone for a cut block but the slate was simpler. For your 26mm you could have 6mm slate and 2 x 10mm joints.
If the ground investigation is decent they should be able to get a good idea. Also access and proximity to adjacent structures can have an impact that the piling contractor can factor in.