Ive just got a gravity flap (with rubber seals) in the pipe up from the hood and it seals fine but can occasionally rattle in strong winds from a certain direction. I really only use the extractor when frying/ stirfrying as generally the MVHR deals with a wee bit of steam fine. I've considered adding either a motorised damper or a Thermobox but have never got any farther than that
The MVHR is set up for slight positive pressure as there's a woodstove at the other end of the house. Only if the cooker hood is turned right up to boost does it actually attempt to depressureise the house, on all other speeds the extra air just freewheels the MVHR's supply fan as far as I can tell