Sleeplessness and self-building and self-help

[Pocster]

1 minute ago, ToughButterCup said:

Yer a man of hidden depths @Pocster. At least 5mm .

Exactly! . You find something else to obsess about ! 

[ToughButterCup]

7 hours ago, Iceverge said:

Worry is what gets me, ...

 

To curb the worry I have tried to  give up the things that trigger me negatively emotionally. 

...

 

The (expletive deleted)ety(expletive deleted)ery of TACO,  Stephen Miller and their lightweight crew has my whole German family bewitched. We're all here-we-go-yet-again.

Miller= Goebbels and TACO is ....phhhh

 

Like you, I've had to switch it off. The last 48 hours have been relative bliss. Put your strategy together with @Pocster's and we're getting somewhere I think.

 

Thanks @Iceverge

 

[ToughButterCup]

20 hours ago, SteamyTea said:

Why sleep quality is so important – and so difficult to measure

 

What nine sleep researchers do to get their best night’s rest

 

 

@SteamyTea's helpful post, earlier in this thread is useful because it's brief and authoritative. By chance I also subscribe to The New Scientist, so I had a look at the link above and summarise it here (without using AI)   - mainly because its so focused and easy to follow.

• Plan your sleep times
• Lighting is important : dimmer in the evenings, lighter early in the day
• Bedrooms cooler than living rooms (much discussion of that on BH)
• Avoid stress before bed (triggers are verboten)
• Bed is for sleeping, its not for checking BH posts
• Its OK to be a bit insomniac occasionally 

Thanks @SteamyTea

[BotusBuild]

3 hours ago, ToughButterCup said:

its not for checking BH posts

Or anything. Fullstops.

 

Leave the phone on charge in another room.

 

Read a book. I prefer detective based novel - it makes me think of something completely different as I drift off to sleep and forget what page I was on 😀 

Edited 6 hours ago by BotusBuild

[NSS]

@ToughButterCup, long time no speak, and I'm really sorry to read of your struggles. I don't have a magic solution for you, but I can tell you what has worked for me.

 

Firstly, I remember going to visit my parents many years ago. My old man had just redecorated their lounge. It looks great, I said. He jumped up from his armchair and dragged its twin from the corner it always sat in. Angrily, he pointed at a tiny mis-allignment in the wallpaper join in the corner, a near invisible flaw that nobody would have noticed even if it wasn't hidden behind an armchair. He was so stressed that he'd not achieved HIS perfection.

 

But what is perfection, and does it really matter if you don't achieve it?

 

Whilst our build was largely complete when we moved in, some of the minor details are still a little rough 8 years later. Does that bug me? Sure it does. And the perfectionist in me still rears its head from time to time, and gives me a sleepless night or two worrying as to what my old man would have said about it had he lived long enough to see it.

 

But, if you've read my earlier post, you'll appreciate that my number one objective was achieved. I've chosen to accept that is enough of a win - and certainly enough of one to overlook those less than perfect details - and to concentrate on living our best life (whilst we still can).

 

I'm not sure where you are with your build, but try to focus and give yourself credit for what you've already achieved, rather than what you have left to complete. And whatever else you do, don't lose sight of life, and the importance of enjoying it.

 

 

Edited 4 hours ago by NSS

[Iceverge]

Self building is a bit like golf in that rather futile pursuit of perfection I suppose. 

 

Mind you I don't play golf. 

[Great_scot_selfbuild]

It's been a while since I had to work nights, and had various instances of particularly long shifts to press through. I'm definitely finding that they have prepared me well for this 'experience'!

 

Personally, offloading some questions into this forum helps me. I have the notepad and pencil (tick), copious use of the iPad and the 'Procreate' app to annotate over images and drawings, but I typically find it takes a while to wind down from the day job and then spool-up some motivation to try and articulate the issue/challenge of the day. Then, a bit of Buildhub research before posting allows me to get the question out into the ether and hope that the following day an answer or two has nudged me a little further along.

 

Secondly, radio 4 comedy shows are an easy listen and by then I'm normally shattered.

 

Just know you're not alone in the challenge @ToughButterCup! Thanks for starting this thread.