Interesting thread, a bit concerning in some cases.
I'm a Chartered Quantity Surveyor, and Project Manager (not touting for business, already too busy! :)) and have been surprised at a number of things.
Has no one seen the property shows, dear architect, we have 100k budget - Architect designs to suit client requests which were unrealistic and come in at 150k.
There are specific steps in a commercial construction project which should be followed, take lessons from the multi million pound developers. Look at the RIBA plan of work (Google it). Initial concept design then detailed design (for planning) , should be costed and any issues ironed out before these projects are taken to site and into contract.
Why would you not have a contract? Why would you not have a pricing document? Don't get an online QS to give you national average rates that mean nothing. Go local, go small practice, negotiate fees, ensuring you know what you are getting from them. Get them to procure the contractor for you, they'll have local relationships with builders they have used before. Let the architect do what they are excellent at doing, designing the accommodation you want, but let your QS cost it and manage those costs to ensure its delivered for that. Google "find a Surveyor" to get a Chartered member of the RICS.
Ask all professionals for a fixed price fee, why would you pay a QS / Architect a % of the finished costs when you have told them your budget from the start, no incentive to keep the costs down, but the reverse is true, the higher the build costs the more money they make!
FMB used to do a crystal mark contract for homeowners, not sure if it's still kicking about. I tend to use JCT or SBCC (in Scotland) minor works contracts as they are simple in nature. You do need someone professional to administrator them though, useless in someone's hands who doesn't know it back to front including your contractor!
When it comes to negotiations, there is no % to agree, unless you are simply talking about the contractors profits, Best course of action is to get a proper pricing document, such as an NRM cost plan or bill of quantities (I use NRM1 to provide a cost plan, but include extra details so it can be later costed by the contractor - with my figures excluded - as part of my tender exercise. A full bill of quantities will most likely terrify most contractors who do single house projects. Once you have the completed costs in from three contractors you can other benchmark your QS's costs and make sure they are right (yes, check them too, I've seen some crazy looking spreadsheets and pie charts on this site that bear no resemblance to a proper cost plan!) and also measure any variations to your contract as your build progresses. Need an extra 25m2 of walls, no problem, refer to your tender doc, get the rate per m2 they quoted and hey presto, you have the cost of the variation (that's a bit simplistic, you will also have to consider other items in any variations such as in the case of increased wall area, such as skirting, decor, slabs etc, but just trying to make a point)
I hope it helps, and I'm happy to chat more if anyone is interested.
Great site, keep up the good work team!
Kenny