Thanks...
Sounds like you are in a very similar position to me. I built mine mostly on my own, though my wife did help from time to time on the days the kids were in nursery. I won't lie though, there are a handful of jobs where two people isn't really optional.
I started planning with research, I watched a lot of YouTube videos and read a lot of forums. I also purchased various sets of plans online, but a warning there, don't go too cheap with your purchases, the cheap ones are next to useless and sometimes offer some pretty shady advice. Then I started designing it in 3D modelling software (I am a design engineer, so this was the natural next step for me).
In terms of costs, I spent about £8k for a Garden Room that's 10m2, the equivalent purchased from a company would be around £25k (not kidding) and the quality would have been overall less.