jumbletons

This made me laugh! I definitely wint move, this is my dream come true property and I have an amazing home and life here (plus in three years I’ve put a lot of work into building hen runs, duck runs, compost bays, water collection tanks, fencing, working on compost toilet etc…!)…but when you’re in the middle of an extended family who’ve lived her for 4 generations, you have to be able to stand up for yourself 😂

Thanks! I don't like the upheaval and expense, and feel like I'm cutting off my nose to spite my face....but in the future my nose might be grateful to be free from my face 😆

Yeah this is my worry 😂We share enough other bits and pieces!

Thank you. They use bleach. We’re actually only a small frugal family we don’t even put animal fat in the system, and I can see your point about taking good care of your own stuff!

They will insist on a particular supplier, and a Klargester Biodisc. they will not let me have input on who/what is installed. I tried to be consulted but it’s 2 against 1… I don’t want a biodisc

Hi all, Long story short - 3 cottages, I'm the middle, share a septic tank in Cottage 3. This year I learnt it doesn't meet regs (I bought the property in 2021 but the illegal nature of the septic tank wasn't flagged up by conveyancing solicitor). We agreed it needed replacing. NB my property deeds are COMPLEX! Old farm worker's cottage with lots of easements, rights of way, bits of land added, missing permissions, etc etc. So buying it was not a simple task, whereas my neighbours have never sold/bought either property on the open market so are unaware of the foibles of conveyancing (they're family and have lived here generations, so their properties were passed down and they don't like kindly on newbies like me upgrading by property...). Neighbours 1 and 3 have spent months trying to bully me into moving some or all of the system onto my property and refusing to replace the system like for like on their land (they don't want to dig up their garden, so would prefer for me to dig up mine). I have consistently declined moving anything to my land - I do not want the future hassle if any disputes (and if the system blocks, then I could get sewage pollution), nor the added complexity in my deeds. I have therefore looked into getting my own individual system. We have finally got down to 2 options: 1 - Continue status quo: cottage 3 have finally agreed to put in a shared system, on their land, for all 3 cottages (like I said months ago). They will request access for building work via my property, which involves taking out a piece of trellis, fence and a small vegetable plot. So, some upheaval for me. We will need a new easement. Cost TBC but obviously less than option 2 2 - I go individual, cottage 1 and 3 share. This means the old pipes crossing my garden will still be used by 1 so remain in situ. I will divert my pipes under them to a plant in my very small front garden, outflow will be pumped out (otherwise the whole thing will end up far too deep, as it's got 50m to go to reach my ditch!). We will need to alter the easement to release me from existing responsibilities towards the shared tank, and retain the pipe easement for no. 1. Cost will be about £8-10,000 more than option 1 (I live in the SE, I've had many quotes, and they're all this high! And no I can't DIY install because I have waaaaay too many other commitments) I'm torn. The last few months has been truly awful, being in dispute with neighbours. It's opened my eyes to the horrors of sharing (and we still have plenty else that we share, like access road, driveway etc!). I also think some people will walk away from my property when it comes to selling (not planning on selling ever but you never know!), because of all the many foibles, but the shared septic system may be the final straw... On the other hand, it seems mad not to share - it's cheaper, and I don't need to dig up my garden. However, I spent a year planning and putting up with chaos in my home to get it insulated, the conservatory updated, and green energy put in....it was a MASSIVE upheaval .....but I'm glad I did it. It adds to my quality of life, my peace of mind, and the value of my home. So I feel this could be a similar investment. What would you do??? (The individual system will be a Harlequin CAP6)