Having done lots of Googling I'm still struggling to determine exactly how I should be mixing mortar to do some re-pointing on my home. There's lots of advice out there, with suggested mixes and what should/should not be included, but it all seems to be very generic and I'm struggling to apply it to my situation, so here goes.
I guess you would call my house modern as it was built in 1998, so is currently "only" 24 years old. It is built from random stone and around 6 years ago we had an extension built onto the kitchen at the back, which resulted in a very large, long steel beam being installed to support the upstairs walls. As a result there has been some settlement as well as some water ingress at various points over the years and this is causing issues again. As well as fixing poorly fitted guttering, I plan to re-point above the extension as there are many cracks due to settlement. I'm sure water isn't getting through them, but at least if I repoint I can tick off any possible cause of leaks.
Attached is a photo of the extension.
I've read a lot about adding lime to the mortar mix, but get the impression this is only necessary for older houses. I've also read that the mortar mix needs to have less strength than the stone otherwise spalling can occur. Our stone is VERY hard! When I have to drill holes in the wall, I always try to drill through the mortar as it takes forever trying to drill holes into the stone. I'm aware that too strong a mortar mix will likely result in hairline cracks and too soft a mix is likely to disintegrate over time. We also have a stone wall and I have tried repointing a few cracks in this over the years, but the mortar mix, even a 5 parts building sand to 1 part cement, always ends up being very grey, compared to the existing light coloured mortar.
So, what mix should I be using for the mortar when I repoint, in order to ensure it blends in and is strong enough, but not too strong?
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I've also attached some recent photos of the upstairs wall above the extension, showing the numerous cracks that have appeared since the extension was built. (I only managed to add 2 before I exceeded the size limit!).